Workshop: Mediating — and Living — Non-Defensively by “Taking the War Out of Our Words” (TM)

Friday September 14, 2012 – Friday September 14, 2012

3013 Dixwell Avenue

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A Training in Sharon Strand Ellison’s

 “Powerful Non-Defensive Communication”  [PNDC]

Principles and Practices.

This workshop is designed to expand your capacity to communicate non-defensively with honesty, integrity, and power.  It will help you see how we have been misusing the rules of war as the guiding principles of communication, and will offer an alternative approach.

The cost of defensiveness is high, to anyone, in any context; it is also universal.  PNDC, therefore, has application to both our personal and professional lives.  It is a set of discrete skills and also represents a shift in intention to foster open and honest communication.  PNDC presents a new way to ask questions and to make statements and predictions that reduce defensiveness and power struggle.

  • For professionals, PNDC is a “language” and approach that has proven to promote the goals of dispute resolution and mediation practice; it enhances the ability of individuals and groups to integrate transformational conflict resolution and creative problem solving skills.
  • On a more personal level, PNDC helps everyone to communicate non-defensively in all their relationships:  as a parent, partner, colleague and friend.

Presented by Carolyn Wilkes Kaas, a founding Board Member of the non-profit “The Non-Defensive Voice” and Associate Professor of Law and Co-director of the Center on Dispute Resolution at Quinnipiac University School of Law.  Professor Kaas is an approved trainer of PNDC, trained directly by Sharon Ellison.

Sharon Strand Ellison developed PNDC over decades of work in the community, and published her book “Taking the War Out of Our Words” in 2002.  She is the founder of the Institute for Powerful Non-Defensive Communication, in Oakland, California, and has presented workshops to thousands of people in many contexts: home, work and community settings.   Sharon Ellison recently presented workshops in PNDC at gatherings hosted by the Association for Conflict Resolution, the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, and the American Bar Association Section on Dispute Resolution. She has not presented in Connecticut since 2007.  The Non-Defensive Voice is a newly formed non-profit which provides PNDC trainers who are licensed to present Sharon Ellison’s work and materials.

The Cost of this workshop is $89.00 and covers materials, a continental breakfast, and lunch.  A student price is available for those with a valid student ID of $49.  Seating in this workshop is limited and payment or arrangements for payment must be received in order to hold your place in the training.

**This program has been approved for 5.25 Continuing Education Credit Hours by the National Association of Social Workers, CT and meets the continuing education criteria for CT Social Work Licensure renewal.

About the Presenter:  Carolyn “Carrie” Wilkes Kaas, Associate Professor of Law, Quinnipiac University School of Law in Hamden, Connecticut.

Professor Kaas is the Director of Clinical Programs and also serves as the Director of the Law School’s Family Law Concentration program, and co-director of its Center on Dispute Resolution. She graduated with distinction from Cornell University with a B.A. in psychology in 1976, and received her J.D. degree in 1983, with Highest Honors, from the University of Connecticut School of Law. She served as a law clerk with the Hon. Ellen Bree Burns, United States District Court, and worked as a litigation associate at the law firm of Wiggin and Dana (New Haven, CT) for four years before joining the faculty at Quinnipiac in 1989.

Professor Kaas taught for twenty years in Quinnipiac’s in-house Civil Clinic, supervising students in a variety of civil and family matters.  She is currently teaching a wide range of clinical and non-clinical courses, such as Negotiation, Mediation Externship, advanced family law courses, and is the lead professor for interviewing, counseling, and negotiation course, called “Introduction to Representing Clients.”

Carrie has served on several committees and boards, including the Connecticut Council for Non-Adversarial Divorce, the Connecticut Mediation Network, and the Connecticut Bar Association Standing Committee on Professionalism. In 2011, she served on the Connecticut Chief Justice’s Commission on Civil ADR in the Courts.

Carrie has been studying PNDC with Sharon Ellison since 2007, and received her approval as a PNDC trainer in 2011. She is researching non-defensive communication and its application in law and mediation, and has an article in progress. Finally, she is a founding board member of the Canadian and the international non-profits, “The Non-Defensive Voice.”